The first thing I would say is find your passion. Find out what makes you tick, what you end up finding yourself thinking about, over and over again.
The second thing I would do, is wait to get married. Get married after you are established in your career. Be very careful who you pick as your mate, as they will have a very big impact on your career.
Find a sponsor and a mentor. People who believe in your vision and want to see your succeed.
Stop fighting it and accept that you are not the norm. It does not make you weird or awkward. Instead understand that you are rare, you are an iconoclast and a trailblazer. As a result, in most circles you inhabit, you may end up being the extreme minority. Learn to embrace discomfort. Learn to relax and embrace being uncomfortable.
Know that what you are doing really matters. You can use the space where you have found yourself to make a killer impact in issues of technology and inclusion. Think big, radically big!
You are intelligent. You are way above average, even though your grades might not always reflect that. Remember that you have been a victim of stereotype threat. You have been relentlessly put through the ringer emotionally, due to being an extreme minority. As a result, you deal with more cognitive load than your peers who have the luxury of not having to wrestle with feelings of alienation and belonging. This is what makes you unique, this is what gives you the perspective that you have. This is why you are in the best position to make a positive impact in issues of equity and inclusion in technology.
Know that you belong in the technology field, just as much as your colleagues. Take the reins of your own career. Do not go with the flow, instead chart your own course.
Smile more, and what ever you do remember to always have fun.
Now what next? Drop everything you are doing right now and go and watch Larry Smith's TED talk titled "Why you will fail to have a great career"
After you finish with that, proceed to his website and go through the career development articles. (http://economics.uwaterloo.ca/smithdat/career1.html) The website is pretty old, but the material is priceless.